THE INFERIORITY COMPLEX BY @KIMSUETHEDIVA

Why do some black women feel inferior to white women? The simple answer would be the media, but it's been a problem long before the media had the power it has now. If we go back 40, 50, 60 years, we can see how and why. People both white and non white have put white women on a pedestal. They're thought of as perfect with their fair skin and dainty features. We look at white women as if they are the epitome of beauty, but they look at us in the same exact way, they just don't admit they do. Just like some of us are bleaching our skin to be accepted by society, they are frying themselves in tanning salons to have a more “exotic” look. Some of us even feel inferior to other black women (lighter skinned blacks). It’s going on in our own community. The “I’m better because I’m lighter” is a serious problem that needs to be addressed and eliminated. The problem with some black women is; some of us aren't told as little girls that we are beautiful with our dark skin and strong features. We have been brainwashed for so long that lighter is better. When you are constantly reminded of just how beautiful, smart and talented you are, there's no room to feel inferior to anyone. We always want to blame our black men for our feelings about ourselves, but the truth is; if you're happy with yourself and the skin you're in, you don't have any room for doubt.  There is absolutely no reason for any woman of color to feel inferior to a Caucasian woman. NONE. We have the same things they have, only darker and bigger. We can acquire the same education, homes, husbands, etc. We have to remember to get out of our own way and feel great about the skin we are in. The same energy you put into getting ready for a party or sleeping with a man for the latest designer clothes, shoes and bags should be put into bettering yourself. The saying "The world is your oyster" is a very true statement. Just because your skin is darker doesn't make you inferior; your attitude towards yourself makes you inferior. A woman that is confident and secure is a powerful woman. We see a black man with a white woman we get angry. Why? That man’s preference should in no way affect how you feel about yourself. If you ask any black man why they date white women a lot of them will tell you it's because they're easier to deal with. Not, “I like their skin tone”. White women have always been thought of as docile and easygoing. They aren't as confrontational as some black women. Some, not all will put up with more than black women will and they LISTEN to their man. If you want your black man to be with you, you have stop treating him like a nigger and treat him like a man. Let him wear the pants and stop looking for a meal ticket and you won't have to worry about him stepping off with a white woman. Stop worrying about who’s dating who and prepare yourself for life and the person you are going to be with.