Coming up with this topic was easy, especially with all the relationship talk that goes on over twitter between my followers and I. Most people have become repetitive with the qualities they want in the opposite sex, forgetting that as we grow older and go through life's experiences our views on relationships and those qualities we once desired may change drastically. Granted, most people want that "American Dream"... You know, the loving marriage, 2 kids, the house with the white picket fence, and the dog. I just wonder why is it so hard to accomplish this during this day and age? Hmmmm
Over the last few decades, women have become more outspoken and dominate in certain aspects of our society. Leaving the submissive ways of the past... In the past! We've adopted male tendencies to get further in life and achieve things we were once incapable of achieving. One can probably say this has changed the way women look at men and the way men look at women. Some men feel that we are no longer dependent on them and see it as a blow to their manhood, while others find it sexy and appealing.
As I reflect back to conversations I've had with other females over the course of my tender adult life, I find that there are some common things most women do seek in a man. Fellas, it's not rocket science... Especially when dealing with a woman who knows exactly what she wants in a man. Now a woman who hasn't completely found herself will not know exactly what she wants in a man. I say this because if a woman doesn't know what she wants for herself, she can't possibly know what she wants from a man. Her wants will change once she finds her true self. What we want from a man is quite simple and I shall break it down for you.
Now I can't talk about what women want without saying we want honesty. Yes, we want the truth men, even when it hurts. So many times we get into relationships or begin to fall for a man that is not being his true self. Everything he is, everything he says, and all he stands for is a lie. The truth shall set you free! Let us ladies fall in love with you for who you really are and not with who you are pretending to be. Honesty goes a long way in a relationship and will strengthen one's relationship because the foundation has been set from the gate. There is no need for static.
Loyalty is another thing we want in our mate. We want to know that no matter what issues arise between us, you will still be there to support us and willing to make things work. You see the lack of loyalty in so many relationships when men are so quick to cheat when something negative arises in their relationship. Fellas, some things can be worked out if take the time to listen, but it may take some more time than others. This can only happen when the line of communication is constantly open and the static is at a minimum. Do remember that nothing in a relationship will be perfect and the person you're with won't ever be!
Personality! Personality! Personality! Yes, women not only want a man with personality but we honestly need it. Seriously, what female wants a boring guy in their life taking up their time on a regular basis? None! We want excitement. We want things to stay fresh and new. A lot of the time things become normal and we get complacent within our relationship. Not only do we want personality, we want confidence! There is nothing like a man who walks into a room and commands attention just from the confidence he has exuding from his pores. Yummy!
Personality! Personality! Personality! Yes, women not only want a man with personality but we honestly need it. Seriously, what female wants a boring guy in their life taking up their time on a regular basis? None! We want excitement. We want things to stay fresh and new. A lot of the time things become normal and we get complacent within our relationship. Not only do we want personality, we want confidence! There is nothing like a man who walks into a room and commands attention just from the confidence he has exuding from his pores. Yummy!
Above all these things, we want a protector and provider. Now I'm not saying we need to be completely dependent upon our man, but we do need you to be able to provide for us in those times when a man should. Protect us. Guard us. Value us. If we are giving you our heart, mind, and body... We want you to take it and value it. What does the average person who has something of value usually do? Yes, they protect it at all cost. The things we give you from ourselves are fragile and hard to replace. Do handle with care.
Now what men desire varies in my eyes because men tend to be more wishy washy in this area. Wishy washy in a sense that it depends on where they're at in their lives. A guy who's still at that playboy stage in his life will not be looking for substance in a female. It'll be all about quantity instead of quality. He's not ready to settle, so a serious relationship with a woman is not on the menu.
Now a man who's at that settling down stage is looking for quality over quantity. He desires a woman who's attractive, loving, intelligent, confident, secure, and knows how to be a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. Men are simple to be quite honest. Yes! Men are simple, it's the boys who are complicated.
Ladies, men desire a woman who always takes care of home and puts home first. You can't be running in the streets, trying to be on the scene with your single girlfriends. That's just as bad as him doing it. Yes, I'm about to say this... but ladies... Men don't want the nagging. Now trying to get your point across is one thing, but nagging about nothing is when you become a nuisance. Remember you want your man to enjoy your presence, not cringe every time he's giving you quality time.
Lastly ladies, you can't be a sexual prude. By all means have reservations but if you can't get freaky with your man then you risk being replaced. Men love sex! Cater to that man, especially if he's doing good by you. Like the saying goes "What you won't do... Somebody else will"... Know this.
Now a man who's at that settling down stage is looking for quality over quantity. He desires a woman who's attractive, loving, intelligent, confident, secure, and knows how to be a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed. Men are simple to be quite honest. Yes! Men are simple, it's the boys who are complicated.
Ladies, men desire a woman who always takes care of home and puts home first. You can't be running in the streets, trying to be on the scene with your single girlfriends. That's just as bad as him doing it. Yes, I'm about to say this... but ladies... Men don't want the nagging. Now trying to get your point across is one thing, but nagging about nothing is when you become a nuisance. Remember you want your man to enjoy your presence, not cringe every time he's giving you quality time.
Lastly ladies, you can't be a sexual prude. By all means have reservations but if you can't get freaky with your man then you risk being replaced. Men love sex! Cater to that man, especially if he's doing good by you. Like the saying goes "What you won't do... Somebody else will"... Know this.
Now I could go deeper but I'll save that for another time. Sorry for the reality check but to me it's reality.
